alicia silverstone
by Ali Berman
Categories: Eats, Lifestyle, Vegan
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When I was 22 I signed up for a vegetarian dating site, went on one date, and then said never again. It was, in short, a disaster. For vegans, finding a perfect mate usually means finding someone who fits into the many categories we require, and on top of all of that, is also vegan. (Even if it’s just so we don’t have to kiss someone who just ate a burger.) But finding that perfect mate is not always easy.

To help us all out Alicia Silverstone is giving her best vegan dating advice. And it might not be what you think. Her thoughts? Don’t limit your dating pool. Don’t think of the omnivore status as a negative. After all, 99% of us vegans were omnivores until we weren’t.

She says, “I’d like to think that I would be able to just be looking for a really amazing person and then trust that that amazing person once given all the wonderful information we have to offer on health and the planet and animals, that that person would be so compassionate and so intelligent and so brilliant that they would want to jump on board as much as they possibly could.”

What doesn’t she think is a good method for finding a mate? Showing up on your first date and screaming about your veganism and how they should be vegan too. We agree that such a display would send most potential mates running for the nearest steak house.

Check out what Alicia has to say on vegan dating. We all have our own stories. Some of them successes, and others horrible messes. Just remember, every vegan you know was inspired to make the change by someone. Who do you inspire?

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About Ali Berman

Ali Berman is the author of Choosing a Good Life: Lessons from People Who Have Found Their Place in the World (Hazelden) and Misdirected (Seven Stories Press). She works as a humane educator for HEART teaching kids about issues affecting people, animals and the environment. Her published work can be found on her website at In early 2012 Ali co-founded flipmeover, a production company with the mission to use media to raise awareness of social issues.

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  • Tera

    I lucked out and my boyfriend turned vegetarian after a few months (!!) of dating. I was open to dating a meat eater as long as we both respected each other’s choices. I feel like that’s ultimately what it comes down to, finding someone you can talk to openly about veganism without having to pressure them to change for you, and at the same time, not sweating it if they decide it’s not for them.

    I had a vegan friend who used to say that she couldn’t date someone who would eat meat in front of her, and if they lived together she wouldn’t allow him to bring it into the house. That just seems so incredibly closed-minded and unrealistic. Talk about forcing your beliefs on your partner! In a perfect world, yes, you would find that perfect person and he/she would already be vegan. But there are so many qualities that make someone a great partner, beyond what’s on their plate.